3 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD GIVE UP . . .
SO YOU CAN GET WHAT YOU REALLY, REALLY WANT!
How are you feeling? I mean, really feeling. Are you excited, frustrated, hopeful, overwhelmed, happy, anxious, tired, peaceful? Maybe you are numb, and you don’t know what’s up? How we are feeling is a vibration which we are emitting into our world. That vibration attracts like or complimentary energy, which then creates our personal reality. Let’s make your world brighter!
Urging you to give up may sound as if I am encouraging you to be defeatist. The opposite is true. Giving up doesn’t mean quitting. Giving up, in my world, is about letting go, surrendering, and not stubbornly clinging to one outcome.
REASON #1: GIVE UP THE IDEA THAT YOU ARE IN CONTROL
When I worked as a flight attendant, I remember coming into land at various airports around the world. Looking down at the cities, cars and dots of people on the ground, I mused at how we humans are like ants. We scurry here and there, only able to see what’s in front, while from way up above the earth, the higher altitude offers a much broader perspective.
Intuitive Intelligence is like that. When we give up, or surrender to that higher consciousness, our walls of resistance can melt away. In that state of grace, anything is possible, especially “miracles.” With sweet surrender, we can enjoy not being in control of how people and events behave. But we can take charge of how we feel.
REASONS #2: GIVE UP “THE LIST.”
While I would have many blonde moments in my work-mode if I didn’t have my to-do lists, I encourage people to─rather than holding onto a wish list–set intention to create what they want. When I was single, for example I had a list of aspects that I wanted in my ideal man. That list didn’t bring me what I thought I wanted. While I met a lot of great men, none of them were exactly my prince. And this is the reason why. Everything on that list came from my ego, and what I thought I wanted.
As Einstein said, “We can’t solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it.” Perhaps he meant when we want something, we must quieten the ego and let our Intuitive Intelligence do the choosing. For me, the moment I gave up my ego-based soulmate list is the moment my husband appeared. He was, and still is completely different from my list, but he is more than I could have ever asked for. We are now celebrating 10 happy years together.
REASON #3: GIVE UP THE NEED TO KNOW.
In our culture, our ego minds are programmed to survive, while our souls want us to thrive.
Because this conditioning trains us to have all the answers, some of us go into a tailspin of panic when we “don’t know.” My clients complain of feeling lost, when they don’t know their life purpose, when they don’t know what’s next. Some even feel a sense of shame.
Like a deer caught in the headlights, the ego-mind can paralyze us with fear. I call this “the void” where you might feel as if you are floating in space with nothing to hang onto. It’s uncomfortable and can cause anxiety. Can anyone relate?
Think of the void as waiting for your cake to bake. You’ve put together the ingredients, followed the baking instructions, put it in the oven and set the timer. You’ve done everything in your power to make it a success. Now all you have to do is be patient and wait for the energy to do its thing. But because of your lack of trust in yourself and the universe, or your shaky confidence in your own abilities, you keep opening the oven door to see how it’s cooking. What happens? You don’t get the result. That’s right. The cake turns into a deflated puddle of batter.
Not knowing might be a part of your path. Trust that your own soul and the universe have a plan for you. In this directionless void, maybe your Higher Self wants you to chill, grieve, take a load off and just rest. Embrace the freedom of not knowing. When the next step does emerge out of the fog, and you become busy again, you might just regret not having taken that time to enjoy the lull in your life.
When you give up control, let go of the list, surrender the need to know, and choose instead to feel trust, excitement and peace, in the ebb and flow of life, the clarity and the mystery become the great adventure.
See you on the bright side!