Do you feel that you are sometimes living with a low-grade flu, tired all the time, bored or stuck?  It might be time for you to grieve. Unresolved grief can manifest in  perpetual sadness, anger and lethargy. Extreme unhealed grief can lead to insanity, illness, paranoia, crippling depression and suicide. Good grieving, on the other hand, can blow away the clouds. But how do you grieve?

Consulting with a good grief counsellor is always a first step.  But if you are not there yet,  here are some additional tips:

  1. Give yourself permission to cry.
  2. Vent your anger or rage, without hurting yourself or others!
  3. Share your story, and your pain with someone you trust.
  4. Find someone to validate your feelings.
  5. Talk, or write a letter, to the offenders─alive or dead.
  6. Forgive yourself and others.
  7. Have compassion for yourself and the “offenders.”
  8.  Use your guilt to guide you toward making amends.
  9. Write the story three times, as it happened, as if it happened to someone else and as if it was the funniest thing that ever happened.
  10. Remember you are only human, and there is only love.

So, go ahead. Grieve.  It’s good for you!

P.P.S: If you would like suggested reading list on grief, please e-mail me at